Totally totally off topic Bachelor Party

Totally totally off topic Bachelor Party

Post by KJ » Fri, 04 Jun 2004 07:27:17



We have our first family wedding coming up and DS is invited to my nephew's
bachelor party.  Is he expected to bring a gift?  It just occurred to me
today that could be a possibility and he would be embarrassed if it were the
norm and he didn't bring one.  Thanks for your advice!

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Post by remove NOSPA » Fri, 04 Jun 2004 08:00:38


I think he's just sposed to bring a ***. I could be wrong tho. I get my
info from bad tv shows/movies.

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> We have our first family wedding coming up and DS is invited to my
nephew's
> bachelor party.  Is he expected to bring a gift?  It just occurred to me
> today that could be a possibility and he would be embarrassed if it were
the
> norm and he didn't bring one.  Thanks for your advice!

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Post by QuiltShopHoppe » Fri, 04 Jun 2004 08:16:59


We got our gifts the night before the wedding at a get together at our
apartment.  Then the boys under 50 yrs old all went out together to a strip
club.  I think that instead of a gift, all the boys buy the groom drinks and
lap dances.
 
 
 

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Post by CNYstitche » Fri, 04 Jun 2004 08:21:49


not that I am aware of.....usually gifts are given to the
bride....however, if it is a serious concern, he should ask the host if
there is anything that he should bring
Quote:

> We have our first family wedding coming up and DS is invited to my nephew's
> bachelor party.  Is he expected to bring a gift?  It just occurred to me
> today that could be a possibility and he would be embarrassed if it were the
> norm and he didn't bring one.  Thanks for your advice!

 
 
 

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Post by LC aka Fid » Fri, 04 Jun 2004 10:24:32


I think the best gift would be to tell the groom that bachelor parties are
tacky, if there is any *** involved!!  (but, that's just my opinion!)

DH just took a few of his friends to a sporting event...very civilized...(well,
at least everyone was clothed...I'm not sure they were civilized!  and it was
all MEN!  rofl)

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Post by KJ » Fri, 04 Jun 2004 11:49:34


I know the group is going to go play (if that's the right word) paintball.
Then dinner somewhere.  There may be some skin involved just for chuckles,
but knowing this group...it wouldn't be ***.



Quote:
> I think the best gift would be to tell the groom that bachelor parties are
> tacky, if there is any *** involved!!  (but, that's just my opinion!)

> DH just took a few of his friends to a sporting event...very
civilized...(well,
> at least everyone was clothed...I'm not sure they were civilized!  and it
was
> all MEN!  rofl)

> The Blessed Fiddy, Patroness Saint of the Disorganized
> LC in Sunny So Cal
> Personality Development Specialist (Full-Time Mom!)

 
 
 

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Post by geor » Fri, 04 Jun 2004 23:01:00


Quote:

> I know the group is going to go play (if that's the right word) paintball.
> Then dinner somewhere.  There may be some skin involved just for chuckles,
> but knowing this group...it wouldn't be ***.

I've never heard of a bachelor party that involved a gift- usually it's
a pay-your-own-way evening, and the pleasure of your company expected.

Usually, it's pass-the-hat for costs  so the groom doesn't buy anything
all evening. So he should expect to help cover the groom's paintball
fees and drinks.

When a couple hosts a get-together the night before their wedding,
usually if there are gifts, they are what you would be giving them for
the wedding (so you can watch them open them) and their gifts to their
wedding party), and this is done early, so you can relax and just enjoy
everyone's company. This is what we did for our wedding, and I've seen
it done with other couples as well.

-georg

 
 
 

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Post by KJ » Sat, 05 Jun 2004 01:18:17


Thanks!  I did give him extra $$ for the weekend as he's a poor college art
major.  Looks like that's the best thing to send along.
I love the idea of the couple opening gifts together with their
well-wishers!  I'll have to keep that in mind when/if! my kids get to that
stage!


Quote:

> > I know the group is going to go play (if that's the right word)
paintball.
> > Then dinner somewhere.  There may be some skin involved just for
chuckles,
> > but knowing this group...it wouldn't be ***.

> I've never heard of a bachelor party that involved a gift- usually it's
> a pay-your-own-way evening, and the pleasure of your company expected.

> Usually, it's pass-the-hat for costs  so the groom doesn't buy anything
> all evening. So he should expect to help cover the groom's paintball
> fees and drinks.

> When a couple hosts a get-together the night before their wedding,
> usually if there are gifts, they are what you would be giving them for
> the wedding (so you can watch them open them) and their gifts to their
> wedding party), and this is done early, so you can relax and just enjoy
> everyone's company. This is what we did for our wedding, and I've seen
> it done with other couples as well.

> -georg

 
 
 

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Post by Pat in Virgini » Sun, 06 Jun 2004 04:20:05


Well, as this thread illustrates, customs vary from place to
place. Even so, I've never heard of gifts given at the bachelor
party. In our circles it is usually a nice event hosted by the
groomsmen. The guests are the groom, the male relatives, and some
close male friends. For DS2 the guys had a cook out supper of hot
dogs, salads, etc. at a beach, then played Frisbee and so on. The
age range was *** through all the uncles and dads. No wild
drinking, though there may have been some beer on hand. Certainly
no ***s and trashy dancing. Just some family fun.
PAT
Quote:

> We have our first family wedding coming up and DS is invited to my nephew's
> bachelor party.  Is he expected to bring a gift?  It just occurred to me
> today that could be a possibility and he would be embarrassed if it were the
> norm and he didn't bring one.  Thanks for your advice!

 
 
 

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Post by CNYstitche » Sun, 06 Jun 2004 08:30:25


My DH doesn't drink and wasn't interested in doing anything "silly", and
most of his friends were from work (military or contractor) and married.
  The best man had a cookout at his house, and they all retired to the
ba***t for cigars and poker.

Just talked with DH, and he suggests:
-talking to the host (best man?) to see if there is anything that your
DS needs to bring
-might want to bring box of nice cigars (if they smoke)
-may be asked to contribute to the cost of a keg (if that is the theme
of the party)

L

Quote:

> Well, as this thread illustrates, customs vary from place to place. Even
> so, I've never heard of gifts given at the bachelor party. In our
> circles it is usually a nice event hosted by the groomsmen. The guests
> are the groom, the male relatives, and some close male friends. For DS2
> the guys had a cook out supper of hot dogs, salads, etc. at a beach,
> then played Frisbee and so on. The age range was *** through all the
> uncles and dads. No wild drinking, though there may have been some beer
> on hand. Certainly no ***s and trashy dancing. Just some family fun.
> PAT


>> We have our first family wedding coming up and DS is invited to my
>> nephew's
>> bachelor party.  Is he expected to bring a gift?  It just occurred to me
>> today that could be a possibility and he would be embarrassed if it
>> were the
>> norm and he didn't bring one.  Thanks for your advice!

 
 
 

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Post by Irrational Numbe » Sun, 06 Jun 2004 11:10:13


DH's bachelor party consisted of his two
brothers and one of them's father-in-law.
The four of them went to New Mexico to get
some good fly fishing.  No gifts, but the
one who was the best man did give DH a free
plane ticket to get there.

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Quote:

> Well, as this thread illustrates, customs vary from place to place. Even
> so, I've never heard of gifts given at the bachelor party. In our
> circles it is usually a nice event hosted by the groomsmen. The guests
> are the groom, the male relatives, and some close male friends. For DS2
> the guys had a cook out supper of hot dogs, salads, etc. at a beach,
> then played Frisbee and so on. The age range was *** through all the
> uncles and dads. No wild drinking, though there may have been some beer
> on hand. Certainly no ***s and trashy dancing. Just some family fun.
> PAT


>> We have our first family wedding coming up and DS is invited to my
>> nephew's
>> bachelor party.  Is he expected to bring a gift?  It just occurred to me
>> today that could be a possibility and he would be embarrassed if it
>> were the
>> norm and he didn't bring one.  Thanks for your advice!

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Post by Dr. Quilte » Sun, 06 Jun 2004 23:08:56


and we (as in 'back home'! :o) don't have bachelor or bachelorette
parties. I think the first time I heard about them was when I saw that
movie with Tom Hanks....

Quote:

> Well, as this thread illustrates, customs vary from place to place. Even
> so, I've never heard of gifts given at the bachelor party. In our
> circles it is usually a nice event hosted by the groomsmen. The guests
> are the groom, the male relatives, and some close male friends. For DS2
> the guys had a cook out supper of hot dogs, salads, etc. at a beach,
> then played Frisbee and so on. The age range was *** through all the
> uncles and dads. No wild drinking, though there may have been some beer
> on hand. Certainly no ***s and trashy dancing. Just some family fun.
> PAT

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Post by KJ » Sun, 06 Jun 2004 23:54:32


Well today is the bachelor party.  And it's iffy as to whether DS is
attending.  He seems to be coming down with another ear infection.  They
were both plugged up a couple weeks ago, one ruptured and the other one
seemed to be getting better.  Then today I get an email from him that the
second one is acting up again.  He had a follow up appointment after meds
for the first incident that he cancelled because it was better.  This kid
will be 25 in a month, and trying to get him to take care of his business is
a PITA!  He thinks that because his dad is a doc, he shouldn't have to
bother making appointments, etc. and waiting.  Sheesh.


Quote:
> and we (as in 'back home'! :o) don't have bachelor or bachelorette
> parties. I think the first time I heard about them was when I saw that
> movie with Tom Hanks....


> > Well, as this thread illustrates, customs vary from place to place. Even
> > so, I've never heard of gifts given at the bachelor party. In our
> > circles it is usually a nice event hosted by the groomsmen. The guests
> > are the groom, the male relatives, and some close male friends. For DS2
> > the guys had a cook out supper of hot dogs, salads, etc. at a beach,
> > then played Frisbee and so on. The age range was *** through all the
> > uncles and dads. No wild drinking, though there may have been some beer
> > on hand. Certainly no ***s and trashy dancing. Just some family
fun.
> > PAT

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