OT: prayer request

OT: prayer request

Post by off kilter quil.. » Fri, 07 Aug 2009 04:39:24



I had a very tense discussion with my mother last night - tense
because she called after 10pm and the only thing she said was, "Are
you going to be up for a little while so I can call you when I get
home?"  OK, ever since we got married, my husband and I have had a "no
calls after 10pm unless it's an emergency" rule - we got married in
1997 and there are 2 relatives who consistently break this rule....my
mother and one of his brothers (his brother can't seem to remember the
time difference...they are an hour ahead of us and he keeps getting it
mixed up).

So, I reminded her of the rule and asked if someone was dying or ill
or if she had wrecked her car again (she recently blacked out at the
wheel and instead of calling me - THAT would be considered an
emergency - she posted on FACEBOOK about it!!!!), she hung up on me.

I called her back and she gave me attitude about my response.  I asked
what was wrong and she said that she had gotten some news from her
doctor.  NOW, if she had said, "I have news from the doctor and I want
to call you so we can talk about it when I get home" (she was using
her OnStar at the time), then there would have been no problem, but
that is NOT what she said.

Ok...to make a long story short (and save you all the guilt trip ***
she dumped on me), her doctor informed her that she has a growth on
the lower right quadrant of her cerebellum, and that is what could be
causing a lot of the issues she has been having - vision, low oxygen
levels, balance problems, etc.  They are doing an MRI with contrast on
Friday morning at 8am to determine the size and exact location and to
see if they can operate on it.

I told her that I wanted her to call me when she got any information
and if/when they decide to do surgery, I will find a way to get up
there (even if it means pulling the kids from school and enrolling
them locally for a while).  In typical Mabel fashion (Mabel was her
mother who cried and tried to guilt people into doing whatever she
wanted, even knowing full well it wasn't good for her...Mabel was a
diabetic who ignored ALL doctors' advice and eventually died from
complications of diabetes), she said that I didn't need to be there,
not to go out of my way, and then she hung up on me.

Whatever

However, she IS my mother (remember, we can choose our friends, but we
can't choose our families) and by HER choice I am an only child.
Therefore, yes, I do have to be there if/when she has surgery

So....if you could keep her (and I guess me) in your prayers, it would
be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

Larisa, still steaming mad

 
 
 

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Post by Aunt » Fri, 07 Aug 2009 05:08:13



Quote:

> I had a very tense discussion with my mother last night - tense
> because she called after 10pm and the only thing she said was, "Are
> you going to be up for a little while so I can call you when I get
> home?" ?OK, ever since we got married, my husband and I have had a "no
> calls after 10pm unless it's an emergency" rule - we got married in
> 1997 and there are 2 relatives who consistently break this rule....my
> mother and one of his brothers (his brother can't seem to remember the
> time difference...they are an hour ahead of us and he keeps getting it
> mixed up).

> So, I reminded her of the rule and asked if someone was dying or ill
> or if she had wrecked her car again (she recently blacked out at the
> wheel and instead of calling me - THAT would be considered an
> emergency - she posted on FACEBOOK about it!!!!), she hung up on me.

> I called her back and she gave me attitude about my response. ?I asked
> what was wrong and she said that she had gotten some news from her
> doctor. ?NOW, if she had said, "I have news from the doctor and I want
> to call you so we can talk about it when I get home" (she was using
> her OnStar at the time), then there would have been no problem, but
> that is NOT what she said.

> Ok...to make a long story short (and save you all the guilt trip ***
> she dumped on me), her doctor informed her that she has a growth on
> the lower right quadrant of her cerebellum, and that is what could be
> causing a lot of the issues she has been having - vision, low oxygen
> levels, balance problems, etc. ?They are doing an MRI with contrast on
> Friday morning at 8am to determine the size and exact location and to
> see if they can operate on it.

> I told her that I wanted her to call me when she got any information
> and if/when they decide to do surgery, I will find a way to get up
> there (even if it means pulling the kids from school and enrolling
> them locally for a while). ?In typical Mabel fashion (Mabel was her
> mother who cried and tried to guilt people into doing whatever she
> wanted, even knowing full well it wasn't good for her...Mabel was a
> diabetic who ignored ALL doctors' advice and eventually died from
> complications of diabetes), she said that I didn't need to be there,
> not to go out of my way, and then she hung up on me.

> Whatever

> However, she IS my mother (remember, we can choose our friends, but we
> can't choose our families) and by HER choice I am an only child.
> Therefore, yes, I do have to be there if/when she has surgery

> So....if you could keep her (and I guess me) in your prayers, it would
> be greatly appreciated.

> Thanks

> Larisa, still steaming mad

Larisa, sorry you're dealing with this.  Reminds me of a call from my
mother once.  "Just wanted to let you know you're brother came out of
surgery fine."  Which brother was operated on for what?  "We thought
David had bone cancer, but he's fine".  Good luck.  Take deep breaths.

Kim in NJ

 
 
 

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Post by Polly Esthe » Fri, 07 Aug 2009 05:16:32


Your mom's quite a work of art, isn't she?  How unusual that she didn't hear
from her doctor until after 10 pm anybody's time.  ???   Sounds like she was
deliberately pushing your buttons.
    But.  You *Know*.   You can only change how you feel and respond - you
can not change her. Grrrrrr-ing with you.  Polly


message

Quote:
>I had a very tense discussion with my mother last night - tense
> because she called after 10pm and the only thing she said was, "Are
> you going to be up for a little while so I can call you when I get
> home?"  OK, ever since we got married, my husband and I have had a "no
> calls after 10pm unless it's an emergency" rule - we got married in
> 1997 and there are 2 relatives who consistently break this rule....my
> mother and one of his brothers (his brother can't seem to remember the
> time difference...they are an hour ahead of us and he keeps getting it
> mixed up).

> So, I reminded her of the rule and asked if someone was dying or ill
> or if she had wrecked her car again (she recently blacked out at the
> wheel and instead of calling me - THAT would be considered an
> emergency - she posted on FACEBOOK about it!!!!), she hung up on me.

> I called her back and she gave me attitude about my response.  I asked
> what was wrong and she said that she had gotten some news from her
> doctor.  NOW, if she had said, "I have news from the doctor and I want
> to call you so we can talk about it when I get home" (she was using
> her OnStar at the time), then there would have been no problem, but
> that is NOT what she said.

> Ok...to make a long story short (and save you all the guilt trip ***
> she dumped on me), her doctor informed her that she has a growth on
> the lower right quadrant of her cerebellum, and that is what could be
> causing a lot of the issues she has been having - vision, low oxygen
> levels, balance problems, etc.  They are doing an MRI with contrast on
> Friday morning at 8am to determine the size and exact location and to
> see if they can operate on it.

> I told her that I wanted her to call me when she got any information
> and if/when they decide to do surgery, I will find a way to get up
> there (even if it means pulling the kids from school and enrolling
> them locally for a while).  In typical Mabel fashion (Mabel was her
> mother who cried and tried to guilt people into doing whatever she
> wanted, even knowing full well it wasn't good for her...Mabel was a
> diabetic who ignored ALL doctors' advice and eventually died from
> complications of diabetes), she said that I didn't need to be there,
> not to go out of my way, and then she hung up on me.

> Whatever

> However, she IS my mother (remember, we can choose our friends, but we
> can't choose our families) and by HER choice I am an only child.
> Therefore, yes, I do have to be there if/when she has surgery

> So....if you could keep her (and I guess me) in your prayers, it would
> be greatly appreciated.

> Thanks

> Larisa, still steaming mad

 
 
 

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Post by Joann » Fri, 07 Aug 2009 06:10:36


Don't blame you for being upset. I have a hard time with people that
beat around the bush and use guilt trips. Just ask me for what you need,
or at least say help, something. I will you keep you both in my prayers.
Sorry that this has to be so *** you.
Take Care
Joanna
Quote:

> I had a very tense discussion with my mother last night - tense
> because she called after 10pm and the only thing she said was, "Are
> you going to be up for a little while so I can call you when I get
> home?"  OK, ever since we got married, my husband and I have had a "no
> calls after 10pm unless it's an emergency" rule - we got married in
> 1997 and there are 2 relatives who consistently break this rule....my
> mother and one of his brothers (his brother can't seem to remember the
> time difference...they are an hour ahead of us and he keeps getting it
> mixed up).

> So, I reminded her of the rule and asked if someone was dying or ill
> or if she had wrecked her car again (she recently blacked out at the
> wheel and instead of calling me - THAT would be considered an
> emergency - she posted on FACEBOOK about it!!!!), she hung up on me.

> I called her back and she gave me attitude about my response.  I asked
> what was wrong and she said that she had gotten some news from her
> doctor.  NOW, if she had said, "I have news from the doctor and I want
> to call you so we can talk about it when I get home" (she was using
> her OnStar at the time), then there would have been no problem, but
> that is NOT what she said.

> Ok...to make a long story short (and save you all the guilt trip ***
> she dumped on me), her doctor informed her that she has a growth on
> the lower right quadrant of her cerebellum, and that is what could be
> causing a lot of the issues she has been having - vision, low oxygen
> levels, balance problems, etc.  They are doing an MRI with contrast on
> Friday morning at 8am to determine the size and exact location and to
> see if they can operate on it.

> I told her that I wanted her to call me when she got any information
> and if/when they decide to do surgery, I will find a way to get up
> there (even if it means pulling the kids from school and enrolling
> them locally for a while).  In typical Mabel fashion (Mabel was her
> mother who cried and tried to guilt people into doing whatever she
> wanted, even knowing full well it wasn't good for her...Mabel was a
> diabetic who ignored ALL doctors' advice and eventually died from
> complications of diabetes), she said that I didn't need to be there,
> not to go out of my way, and then she hung up on me.

> Whatever

> However, she IS my mother (remember, we can choose our friends, but we
> can't choose our families) and by HER choice I am an only child.
> Therefore, yes, I do have to be there if/when she has surgery

> So....if you could keep her (and I guess me) in your prayers, it would
> be greatly appreciated.

> Thanks

> Larisa, still steaming mad

 
 
 

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Post by Tari » Fri, 07 Aug 2009 06:24:22


Hope things work out for the best.  Sending positive
thoughts and prayer your way.
Taria
 
 
 

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Post by Cindy Schmid » Fri, 07 Aug 2009 06:39:06


(((((Larisa)))))

--
Cindy from MO


message

Quote:
>I had a very tense discussion with my mother last night - tense
> because she called after 10pm and the only thing she said was, "Are
> you going to be up for a little while so I can call you when I get
> home?"  OK, ever since we got married, my husband and I have had a "no
> calls after 10pm unless it's an emergency" rule - we got married in
> 1997 and there are 2 relatives who consistently break this rule....my
> mother and one of his brothers (his brother can't seem to remember the
> time difference...they are an hour ahead of us and he keeps getting it
> mixed up).

> So, I reminded her of the rule and asked if someone was dying or ill
> or if she had wrecked her car again (she recently blacked out at the
> wheel and instead of calling me - THAT would be considered an
> emergency - she posted on FACEBOOK about it!!!!), she hung up on me.

> I called her back and she gave me attitude about my response.  I asked
> what was wrong and she said that she had gotten some news from her
> doctor.  NOW, if she had said, "I have news from the doctor and I want
> to call you so we can talk about it when I get home" (she was using
> her OnStar at the time), then there would have been no problem, but
> that is NOT what she said.

> Ok...to make a long story short (and save you all the guilt trip ***
> she dumped on me), her doctor informed her that she has a growth on
> the lower right quadrant of her cerebellum, and that is what could be
> causing a lot of the issues she has been having - vision, low oxygen
> levels, balance problems, etc.  They are doing an MRI with contrast on
> Friday morning at 8am to determine the size and exact location and to
> see if they can operate on it.

> I told her that I wanted her to call me when she got any information
> and if/when they decide to do surgery, I will find a way to get up
> there (even if it means pulling the kids from school and enrolling
> them locally for a while).  In typical Mabel fashion (Mabel was her
> mother who cried and tried to guilt people into doing whatever she
> wanted, even knowing full well it wasn't good for her...Mabel was a
> diabetic who ignored ALL doctors' advice and eventually died from
> complications of diabetes), she said that I didn't need to be there,
> not to go out of my way, and then she hung up on me.

> Whatever

> However, she IS my mother (remember, we can choose our friends, but we
> can't choose our families) and by HER choice I am an only child.
> Therefore, yes, I do have to be there if/when she has surgery

> So....if you could keep her (and I guess me) in your prayers, it would
> be greatly appreciated.

> Thanks

> Larisa, still steaming mad

 
 
 

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Post by Kate in M » Fri, 07 Aug 2009 06:40:27


Prayers on their way....

--
Kate in MI
http://www.FoundCollection.com/


message

Quote:
>I had a very tense discussion with my mother last night - tense
> because she called after 10pm and the only thing she said was, "Are
> you going to be up for a little while so I can call you when I get
> home?"  OK, ever since we got married, my husband and I have had a "no
> calls after 10pm unless it's an emergency" rule - we got married in
> 1997 and there are 2 relatives who consistently break this rule....my
> mother and one of his brothers (his brother can't seem to remember the
> time difference...they are an hour ahead of us and he keeps getting it
> mixed up).

> So, I reminded her of the rule and asked if someone was dying or ill
> or if she had wrecked her car again (she recently blacked out at the
> wheel and instead of calling me - THAT would be considered an
> emergency - she posted on FACEBOOK about it!!!!), she hung up on me.

> I called her back and she gave me attitude about my response.  I asked
> what was wrong and she said that she had gotten some news from her
> doctor.  NOW, if she had said, "I have news from the doctor and I want
> to call you so we can talk about it when I get home" (she was using
> her OnStar at the time), then there would have been no problem, but
> that is NOT what she said.

> Ok...to make a long story short (and save you all the guilt trip ***
> she dumped on me), her doctor informed her that she has a growth on
> the lower right quadrant of her cerebellum, and that is what could be
> causing a lot of the issues she has been having - vision, low oxygen
> levels, balance problems, etc.  They are doing an MRI with contrast on
> Friday morning at 8am to determine the size and exact location and to
> see if they can operate on it.

> I told her that I wanted her to call me when she got any information
> and if/when they decide to do surgery, I will find a way to get up
> there (even if it means pulling the kids from school and enrolling
> them locally for a while).  In typical Mabel fashion (Mabel was her
> mother who cried and tried to guilt people into doing whatever she
> wanted, even knowing full well it wasn't good for her...Mabel was a
> diabetic who ignored ALL doctors' advice and eventually died from
> complications of diabetes), she said that I didn't need to be there,
> not to go out of my way, and then she hung up on me.

> Whatever

> However, she IS my mother (remember, we can choose our friends, but we
> can't choose our families) and by HER choice I am an only child.
> Therefore, yes, I do have to be there if/when she has surgery

> So....if you could keep her (and I guess me) in your prayers, it would
> be greatly appreciated.

> Thanks

> Larisa, still steaming mad

 
 
 

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Post by onetexsu » Fri, 07 Aug 2009 06:55:13


You have my prayers.

Sunny

 
 
 

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Post by was rabbit » Fri, 07 Aug 2009 07:34:58


Prayers on their way from Indiana for you both.

--Heidi

http://www.FoundCollection.com/


Quote:

> I had a very tense discussion with my mother last night - tense
> because she called after 10pm
> Ok...to make a long story short (and save you all the guilt trip ***
> she dumped on me), her doctor informed her that she has a growth on
> the lower right quadrant of her cerebellum,

 
 
 

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Post by Michelle C » Fri, 07 Aug 2009 08:29:20


Quote:

> I had a very tense discussion with my mother last night - tense
> because she called after 10pm and the only thing she said was, "Are
> you going to be up for a little while so I can call you when I get
> home?"  OK, ever since we got married, my husband and I have had a "no
> calls after 10pm unless it's an emergency" rule - we got married in
> 1997 and there are 2 relatives who consistently break this rule....my
> mother and one of his brothers (his brother can't seem to remember the
> time difference...they are an hour ahead of us and he keeps getting it
> mixed up).

> So, I reminded her of the rule and asked if someone was dying or ill
> or if she had wrecked her car again (she recently blacked out at the
> wheel and instead of calling me - THAT would be considered an
> emergency - she posted on FACEBOOK about it!!!!), she hung up on me.

> I called her back and she gave me attitude about my response.  I asked
> what was wrong and she said that she had gotten some news from her
> doctor.  NOW, if she had said, "I have news from the doctor and I want
> to call you so we can talk about it when I get home" (she was using
> her OnStar at the time), then there would have been no problem, but
> that is NOT what she said.

> Ok...to make a long story short (and save you all the guilt trip ***
> she dumped on me), her doctor informed her that she has a growth on
> the lower right quadrant of her cerebellum, and that is what could be
> causing a lot of the issues she has been having - vision, low oxygen
> levels, balance problems, etc.  They are doing an MRI with contrast on
> Friday morning at 8am to determine the size and exact location and to
> see if they can operate on it.

> I told her that I wanted her to call me when she got any information
> and if/when they decide to do surgery, I will find a way to get up
> there (even if it means pulling the kids from school and enrolling
> them locally for a while).  In typical Mabel fashion (Mabel was her
> mother who cried and tried to guilt people into doing whatever she
> wanted, even knowing full well it wasn't good for her...Mabel was a
> diabetic who ignored ALL doctors' advice and eventually died from
> complications of diabetes), she said that I didn't need to be there,
> not to go out of my way, and then she hung up on me.

> Whatever

> However, she IS my mother (remember, we can choose our friends, but we
> can't choose our families) and by HER choice I am an only child.
> Therefore, yes, I do have to be there if/when she has surgery

> So....if you could keep her (and I guess me) in your prayers, it would
> be greatly appreciated.

> Thanks

> Larisa, still steaming mad

(((((((((((((((((Big hugs, Larisa))))))))))))))))))))))

I'll keep you and your mom in my thoughts.

Michelle in Nevada, USA

 
 
 

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Post by J* » Fri, 07 Aug 2009 08:29:48


can be as difficult being a daughter as it is being a mum
and neither position comes with a manual.
good thots winging across the pacific for you mum.
j.

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"heidi (was rabbit2b)" wrote...

Prayers on their way from Indiana for you both.