I had a very tense discussion with my mother last night - tense
because she called after 10pm and the only thing she said was, "Are
you going to be up for a little while so I can call you when I get
home?" OK, ever since we got married, my husband and I have had a "no
calls after 10pm unless it's an emergency" rule - we got married in
1997 and there are 2 relatives who consistently break this rule....my
mother and one of his brothers (his brother can't seem to remember the
time difference...they are an hour ahead of us and he keeps getting it
So, I reminded her of the rule and asked if someone was dying or ill
or if she had wrecked her car again (she recently blacked out at the
wheel and instead of calling me - THAT would be considered an
emergency - she posted on FACEBOOK about it!!!!), she hung up on me.
I called her back and she gave me attitude about my response. I asked
what was wrong and she said that she had gotten some news from her
doctor. NOW, if she had said, "I have news from the doctor and I want
to call you so we can talk about it when I get home" (she was using
her OnStar at the time), then there would have been no problem, but
that is NOT what she said.
Ok...to make a long story short (and save you all the guilt trip ***
she dumped on me), her doctor informed her that she has a growth on
the lower right quadrant of her cerebellum, and that is what could be
causing a lot of the issues she has been having - vision, low oxygen
levels, balance problems, etc. They are doing an MRI with contrast on
Friday morning at 8am to determine the size and exact location and to
see if they can operate on it.
I told her that I wanted her to call me when she got any information
and if/when they decide to do surgery, I will find a way to get up
there (even if it means pulling the kids from school and enrolling
them locally for a while). In typical Mabel fashion (Mabel was her
mother who cried and tried to guilt people into doing whatever she
wanted, even knowing full well it wasn't good for her...Mabel was a
diabetic who ignored ALL doctors' advice and eventually died from
complications of diabetes), she said that I didn't need to be there,
not to go out of my way, and then she hung up on me.
However, she IS my mother (remember, we can choose our friends, but we
can't choose our families) and by HER choice I am an only child.
Therefore, yes, I do have to be there if/when she has surgery
So....if you could keep her (and I guess me) in your prayers, it would
be greatly appreciated.
Larisa, still steaming mad