Long & OT- You are all wonderful

Long & OT- You are all wonderful

Post by Marlys in Indian » Sat, 19 Aug 2006 07:51:48



Well, it has been 2 months since DH passed away( June 14th) and I am still a
bit "in the pits" but holding my own.  A number of people continue to tell
me that I am a strong person and I will survive.  Looks like I might, even
though I, most assuredly, will miss the greatest love of my life.  I had the
best 11 yrs of my life with him and I will be ever grateful for that, but
envious of those who have had such a wonderful husband and have had many
more years than I have had with my beloved David.
At least I have acquired 5 wonderful stepkids who think I'm pretty special
also and they adore my DD and DGS.  They truly consider us part of their
"family".  What more could I want due to circumstances, right!!!
I will be moving into an apartment shortly - in the process right now.  Glad
to see that the entries for the new RCTQ directory won't be closing until
I'm in the new apartment.  How kewl is that!!!!  I can get up-to-date just
in time.
Also, on Sept 9th I am having a birthday party for DH (yes, I know he has
passed on).  I have things that I need to give to his children and we are
having an "honor day" in memory of him.  It is the closest Saturday to his
real birthday - the 13th.  Thought his children would think I had lost my
mind for sure, but each of them thought it was a fabulous idea, and so did
my DD when I asked her and her fianc to be there also.  So we will have the
party at my new apartment.
DD has been living with me and helping me keep my mind "somewhat" out of the
depths of despair, so to speak.  But since she and her fianc are buying the
house, she is also eager for me to "evacuate" ASAP since she has many plans
for changing things and has asked whether or not I would mind.  Why should I
care since she is going to be living here??!!  I am not emotionally attached
to the house although I had lived here since 1989.  Also DH and I had
planned on moving into this apartment anyhow.
I also do need to get into the apartment and get back to quilting.  I
haven't done any quilt work for over 7 months since DH had started to show
strong signs of illness.  I devoted all my time to him while he was awake
and most of the rest of the time, I tried to remain quiet so he could rest.
I felt I needed to stick close to him as long as I could.  And after he
passed away, my heart really wasn't into doing anything.
Well, I've rattled on long enough and hope that everyone is well and happy
and that each has the prayers and help that they need and happy dances for
all of those who have made their desired accomplishments in whatever
endeavors have been attempted.
A special thanks to all of you who have sent your cards, e-mails, thoughts
and prayers.  I couldn't have made it through without them.
And a very special thanks to Toni and her DH and little Audrey for coming to
DH's funeral.  I realized that all the rest of you are so very far away and
couldn't be there, but for her to be there was a great showing of the
wonderful love and concern that RCTQ gals show to each other.  She also gave
me a mini quilt which I shall display proudly in my new apartment.
And thank you all again for the lovely hug that I received last year at the
loss of my son - anniversary of which will be in just 3 days, Aug 20th - the
time his body was found in the California desert.
Yes, it has really been a rough year for me, but I have tried to remember
the tenacity of a lady in my church who had lost her DH and DS in the same
horrible car crash many years ago.  She survived and went on with her life
with all of the pain that happened on the very same day for her.  I had at
least nearly a year between my losses.  So memory of her has kept me going
as well.
So to a great bunch of gals and guys, I wish for all of you, wonderful days,
and good things for all you and yours.
Thanks for being here. You are all great.

    Marlys in Indiana

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Long & OT- You are all wonderful

Post by julia sidebotto » Sat, 19 Aug 2006 08:07:42


No one can know your pain to be sure but my heart is close to yours
right now.
   Trying to keep busy does help.  I love your party idea it is
wonderful.  Something I will share with my sister who lost her fianc
just weeks before their wedding (last November).  His birthday is the
end of this month also.
   You are so right about this group of folks. They are the very best of
all.  I would not have made it though some of the darker days the last
year or two without them all.
<<<<<< big hug>>>>>>
julia
Quote:

> Well, it has been 2 months since DH passed away( June 14th) and I am still a
> bit "in the pits" but holding my own.  A number of people continue to tell
> me that I am a strong person and I will survive.  Looks like I might, even
> though I, most assuredly, will miss the greatest love of my life.  I had the
> best 11 yrs of my life with him and I will be ever grateful for that, but
> envious of those who have had such a wonderful husband and have had many
> more years than I have had with my beloved David.
> At least I have acquired 5 wonderful stepkids who think I'm pretty special
> also and they adore my DD and DGS.  They truly consider us part of their
> "family".  What more could I want due to circumstances, right!!!
> I will be moving into an apartment shortly - in the process right now.  Glad
> to see that the entries for the new RCTQ directory won't be closing until
> I'm in the new apartment.  How kewl is that!!!!  I can get up-to-date just
> in time.
> Also, on Sept 9th I am having a birthday party for DH (yes, I know he has
> passed on).  I have things that I need to give to his children and we are
> having an "honor day" in memory of him.  It is the closest Saturday to his
> real birthday - the 13th.  Thought his children would think I had lost my
> mind for sure, but each of them thought it was a fabulous idea, and so did
> my DD when I asked her and her fianc to be there also.  So we will have the
> party at my new apartment.
> DD has been living with me and helping me keep my mind "somewhat" out of the
> depths of despair, so to speak.  But since she and her fianc are buying the
> house, she is also eager for me to "evacuate" ASAP since she has many plans
> for changing things and has asked whether or not I would mind.  Why should I
> care since she is going to be living here??!!  I am not emotionally attached
> to the house although I had lived here since 1989.  Also DH and I had
> planned on moving into this apartment anyhow.
> I also do need to get into the apartment and get back to quilting.  I
> haven't done any quilt work for over 7 months since DH had started to show
> strong signs of illness.  I devoted all my time to him while he was awake
> and most of the rest of the time, I tried to remain quiet so he could rest.
> I felt I needed to stick close to him as long as I could.  And after he
> passed away, my heart really wasn't into doing anything.
> Well, I've rattled on long enough and hope that everyone is well and happy
> and that each has the prayers and help that they need and happy dances for
> all of those who have made their desired accomplishments in whatever
> endeavors have been attempted.
> A special thanks to all of you who have sent your cards, e-mails, thoughts
> and prayers.  I couldn't have made it through without them.
> And a very special thanks to Toni and her DH and little Audrey for coming to
> DH's funeral.  I realized that all the rest of you are so very far away and
> couldn't be there, but for her to be there was a great showing of the
> wonderful love and concern that RCTQ gals show to each other.  She also gave
> me a mini quilt which I shall display proudly in my new apartment.
> And thank you all again for the lovely hug that I received last year at the
> loss of my son - anniversary of which will be in just 3 days, Aug 20th - the
> time his body was found in the California desert.
> Yes, it has really been a rough year for me, but I have tried to remember
> the tenacity of a lady in my church who had lost her DH and DS in the same
> horrible car crash many years ago.  She survived and went on with her life
> with all of the pain that happened on the very same day for her.  I had at
> least nearly a year between my losses.  So memory of her has kept me going
> as well.
> So to a great bunch of gals and guys, I wish for all of you, wonderful days,
> and good things for all you and yours.
> Thanks for being here. You are all great.

>     Marlys in Indiana


 
 
 

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Post by Cats » Sat, 19 Aug 2006 08:10:04


((((HUGS)))) from Oz

May the move mark the beginning of a new and gentler stage
of your life.

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: Well, it has been 2 months since DH passed away( June
14th) and I am still a
: bit "in the pits" but holding my own.  A number of people
continue to tell
: me that I am a strong person and I will survive.  Looks
like I might, even
: though I, most assuredly, will miss the greatest love of
my life.  I had the
: best 11 yrs of my life with him and I will be ever
grateful for that, but
: envious of those who have had such a wonderful husband and
have had many
: more years than I have had with my beloved David.
: At least I have acquired 5 wonderful stepkids who think
I'm pretty special
: also and they adore my DD and DGS.  They truly consider us
part of their
: "family".  What more could I want due to circumstances,
right!!!
: I will be moving into an apartment shortly - in the
process right now.  Glad
: to see that the entries for the new RCTQ directory won't
be closing until
: I'm in the new apartment.  How kewl is that!!!!  I can get
up-to-date just
: in time.
: Also, on Sept 9th I am having a birthday party for DH
(yes, I know he has
: passed on).  I have things that I need to give to his
children and we are
: having an "honor day" in memory of him.  It is the closest
Saturday to his
: real birthday - the 13th.  Thought his children would
think I had lost my
: mind for sure, but each of them thought it was a fabulous
idea, and so did
: my DD when I asked her and her fianc to be there also.
So we will have the
: party at my new apartment.
: DD has been living with me and helping me keep my mind
"somewhat" out of the
: depths of despair, so to speak.  But since she and her
fianc are buying the
: house, she is also eager for me to "evacuate" ASAP since
she has many plans
: for changing things and has asked whether or not I would
mind.  Why should I
: care since she is going to be living here??!!  I am not
emotionally attached
: to the house although I had lived here since 1989.  Also
DH and I had
: planned on moving into this apartment anyhow.
: I also do need to get into the apartment and get back to
quilting.  I
: haven't done any quilt work for over 7 months since DH had
started to show
: strong signs of illness.  I devoted all my time to him
while he was awake
: and most of the rest of the time, I tried to remain quiet
so he could rest.
: I felt I needed to stick close to him as long as I could.
And after he
: passed away, my heart really wasn't into doing anything.
: Well, I've rattled on long enough and hope that everyone
is well and happy
: and that each has the prayers and help that they need and
happy dances for
: all of those who have made their desired accomplishments
in whatever
: endeavors have been attempted.
: A special thanks to all of you who have sent your cards,
e-mails, thoughts
: and prayers.  I couldn't have made it through without
them.
: And a very special thanks to Toni and her DH and little
Audrey for coming to
: DH's funeral.  I realized that all the rest of you are so
very far away and
: couldn't be there, but for her to be there was a great
showing of the
: wonderful love and concern that RCTQ gals show to each
other.  She also gave
: me a mini quilt which I shall display proudly in my new
apartment.
: And thank you all again for the lovely hug that I received
last year at the
: loss of my son - anniversary of which will be in just 3
days, Aug 20th - the
: time his body was found in the California desert.
: Yes, it has really been a rough year for me, but I have
tried to remember
: the tenacity of a lady in my church who had lost her DH
and DS in the same
: horrible car crash many years ago.  She survived and went
on with her life
: with all of the pain that happened on the very same day
for her.  I had at
: least nearly a year between my losses.  So memory of her
has kept me going
: as well.
: So to a great bunch of gals and guys, I wish for all of
you, wonderful days,
: and good things for all you and yours.
: Thanks for being here. You are all great.
:
:    Marlys in Indiana
:
: --

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Long & OT- You are all wonderful

Post by Ceridwe » Sat, 19 Aug 2006 08:11:50


Marlys, I am so glad to read a post from you.  You have been in my thoughts.
Getting back into quilting will be good for you.  In due time, life will
settle as it should.  Just remember to take good care of yourself and enjoy
life.  Hugging you in my thoughts!

--
Carole
Champlain, NY

http://photos.yahoo.com/ceridwen_rhea



Quote:
> Well, it has been 2 months since DH passed away( June 14th) and I am still
> a bit "in the pits" but holding my own.  A number of people continue to
> tell me that I am a strong person and I will survive.  Looks like I might,
> even though I, most assuredly, will miss the greatest love of my life.  I
> had the best 11 yrs of my life with him and I will be ever grateful for
> that, but envious of those who have had such a wonderful husband and have
> had many more years than I have had with my beloved David.
> At least I have acquired 5 wonderful stepkids who think I'm pretty special
> also and they adore my DD and DGS.  They truly consider us part of their
> "family".  What more could I want due to circumstances, right!!!
> I will be moving into an apartment shortly - in the process right now.
> Glad to see that the entries for the new RCTQ directory won't be closing
> until I'm in the new apartment.  How kewl is that!!!!  I can get
> up-to-date just in time.
> Also, on Sept 9th I am having a birthday party for DH (yes, I know he has
> passed on).  I have things that I need to give to his children and we are
> having an "honor day" in memory of him.  It is the closest Saturday to his
> real birthday - the 13th.  Thought his children would think I had lost my
> mind for sure, but each of them thought it was a fabulous idea, and so did
> my DD when I asked her and her fianc to be there also.  So we will have
> the party at my new apartment.
> DD has been living with me and helping me keep my mind "somewhat" out of
> the depths of despair, so to speak.  But since she and her fianc are
> buying the house, she is also eager for me to "evacuate" ASAP since she
> has many plans for changing things and has asked whether or not I would
> mind.  Why should I care since she is going to be living here??!!  I am
> not emotionally attached to the house although I had lived here since
> 1989.  Also DH and I had planned on moving into this apartment anyhow.
> I also do need to get into the apartment and get back to quilting.  I
> haven't done any quilt work for over 7 months since DH had started to show
> strong signs of illness.  I devoted all my time to him while he was awake
> and most of the rest of the time, I tried to remain quiet so he could
> rest. I felt I needed to stick close to him as long as I could.  And after
> he passed away, my heart really wasn't into doing anything.
> Well, I've rattled on long enough and hope that everyone is well and happy
> and that each has the prayers and help that they need and happy dances for
> all of those who have made their desired accomplishments in whatever
> endeavors have been attempted.
> A special thanks to all of you who have sent your cards, e-mails, thoughts
> and prayers.  I couldn't have made it through without them.
> And a very special thanks to Toni and her DH and little Audrey for coming
> to DH's funeral.  I realized that all the rest of you are so very far away
> and couldn't be there, but for her to be there was a great showing of the
> wonderful love and concern that RCTQ gals show to each other.  She also
> gave me a mini quilt which I shall display proudly in my new apartment.
> And thank you all again for the lovely hug that I received last year at
> the loss of my son - anniversary of which will be in just 3 days, Aug
> 20th - the time his body was found in the California desert.
> Yes, it has really been a rough year for me, but I have tried to remember
> the tenacity of a lady in my church who had lost her DH and DS in the same
> horrible car crash many years ago.  She survived and went on with her life
> with all of the pain that happened on the very same day for her.  I had at
> least nearly a year between my losses.  So memory of her has kept me going
> as well.
> So to a great bunch of gals and guys, I wish for all of you, wonderful
> days, and good things for all you and yours.
> Thanks for being here. You are all great.

>    Marlys in Indiana

> --

> http://community.webshots.com/user/marletts

 
 
 

Long & OT- You are all wonderful

Post by Nancy in N » Sat, 19 Aug 2006 08:43:35


On Thu, 17 Aug 2006 22:51:48 GMT, "Marlys in Indiana"

Quote:

>Also, on Sept 9th I am having a birthday party for DH (yes, I know he has
>passed on).  I have things that I need to give to his children and we are
>having an "honor day" in memory of him.  

Marlys, I remember your name from a couple years ago when I
posted regularly.  I'm so sorry for your loss, but I think
the idea of having a party to honor his birthday is a
wonderful idea.  I hope that the love of your family, and
beautiful memories will help sustain you in the months
ahead.  

Nancy in NS
http://community.webshots.com/user/loves2quilt

 
 
 

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Post by Louis » Sat, 19 Aug 2006 09:01:14


Marlys, it's so good to hear from you! You are truly blessed to have
stepkids who consider you one of their own. And what a wonderful idea to
have a birthday party for David. When Dad died, we did something similar,
but we did it on the anniversary of his passing. It really did help all of
us deal with the loss, and I hope it will do the same for you and your
family.

It sounds as though you'll be back to playing with fabric in no time. I hope
the move goes smoothly and that you're quilting away before you know it!

--
Louise in Iowa
nieland4 at mchsi dot com
http://community.webshots.com/user/louiseiniowa



Quote:
> Well, it has been 2 months since DH passed away( June 14th) and I am still
> a bit "in the pits" but holding my own.  A number of people continue to
> tell me that I am a strong person and I will survive.  Looks like I might,
> even though I, most assuredly, will miss the greatest love of my life.  I
> had the best 11 yrs of my life with him and I will be ever grateful for
> that, but envious of those who have had such a wonderful husband and have
> had many more years than I have had with my beloved David.
> At least I have acquired 5 wonderful stepkids who think I'm pretty special
> also and they adore my DD and DGS.  They truly consider us part of their
> "family".  What more could I want due to circumstances, right!!!
> I will be moving into an apartment shortly - in the process right now.
> Glad to see that the entries for the new RCTQ directory won't be closing
> until I'm in the new apartment.  How kewl is that!!!!  I can get
> up-to-date just in time.
> Also, on Sept 9th I am having a birthday party for DH (yes, I know he has
> passed on).  I have things that I need to give to his children and we are
> having an "honor day" in memory of him.  It is the closest Saturday to his
> real birthday - the 13th.  Thought his children would think I had lost my
> mind for sure, but each of them thought it was a fabulous idea, and so did
> my DD when I asked her and her fianc to be there also.  So we will have
> the party at my new apartment.
> DD has been living with me and helping me keep my mind "somewhat" out of
> the depths of despair, so to speak.  But since she and her fianc are
> buying the house, she is also eager for me to "evacuate" ASAP since she
> has many plans for changing things and has asked whether or not I would
> mind.  Why should I care since she is going to be living here??!!  I am
> not emotionally attached to the house although I had lived here since
> 1989.  Also DH and I had planned on moving into this apartment anyhow.
> I also do need to get into the apartment and get back to quilting.  I
> haven't done any quilt work for over 7 months since DH had started to show
> strong signs of illness.  I devoted all my time to him while he was awake
> and most of the rest of the time, I tried to remain quiet so he could
> rest. I felt I needed to stick close to him as long as I could.  And after
> he passed away, my heart really wasn't into doing anything.
> Well, I've rattled on long enough and hope that everyone is well and happy
> and that each has the prayers and help that they need and happy dances for
> all of those who have made their desired accomplishments in whatever
> endeavors have been attempted.
> A special thanks to all of you who have sent your cards, e-mails, thoughts
> and prayers.  I couldn't have made it through without them.
> And a very special thanks to Toni and her DH and little Audrey for coming
> to DH's funeral.  I realized that all the rest of you are so very far away
> and couldn't be there, but for her to be there was a great showing of the
> wonderful love and concern that RCTQ gals show to each other.  She also
> gave me a mini quilt which I shall display proudly in my new apartment.
> And thank you all again for the lovely hug that I received last year at
> the loss of my son - anniversary of which will be in just 3 days, Aug
> 20th - the time his body was found in the California desert.
> Yes, it has really been a rough year for me, but I have tried to remember
> the tenacity of a lady in my church who had lost her DH and DS in the same
> horrible car crash many years ago.  She survived and went on with her life
> with all of the pain that happened on the very same day for her.  I had at
> least nearly a year between my losses.  So memory of her has kept me going
> as well.
> So to a great bunch of gals and guys, I wish for all of you, wonderful
> days, and good things for all you and yours.
> Thanks for being here. You are all great.

>    Marlys in Indiana

> --

> http://community.webshots.com/user/marletts

 
 
 

Long & OT- You are all wonderful

Post by Debi Matlac » Sat, 19 Aug 2006 09:07:29


{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Marlys}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
I'm glad to know that your family is holding together and I think of you
often. And we are always here for you, whenever you need us.
Take care,
Debi
 
 
 

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Post by Kiteflye » Sat, 19 Aug 2006 09:09:56


(((HUGS)))  I have wondered how you were getting on.  Family is the only
important thing and you appear to be blessed.

Denny
--
http://community.webshots.com/user/kiteflyer54

 
 
 

Long & OT- You are all wonderful

Post by Heather in WestO » Sat, 19 Aug 2006 09:44:59


Rainbows to you from West Oz. I hope all goes well with the move and we look
forward to hearing more from you once you are settled

Heather in West Oz



Quote:
> Well, it has been 2 months since DH passed away( June 14th) and I am still
> a bit "in the pits" but holding my own.  A number of people continue to
> tell me that I am a strong person and I will survive.  Looks like I might,
> even though I, most assuredly, will miss the greatest love of my life.  I
> had the best 11 yrs of my life with him and I will be ever grateful for
> that, but envious of those who have had such a wonderful husband and have
> had many more years than I have had with my beloved David.
> At least I have acquired 5 wonderful stepkids who think I'm pretty special
> also and they adore my DD and DGS.  They truly consider us part of their
> "family".  What more could I want due to circumstances, right!!!
> I will be moving into an apartment shortly - in the process right now.
> Glad to see that the entries for the new RCTQ directory won't be closing
> until I'm in the new apartment.  How kewl is that!!!!  I can get
> up-to-date just in time.
> Also, on Sept 9th I am having a birthday party for DH (yes, I know he has
> passed on).  I have things that I need to give to his children and we are
> having an "honor day" in memory of him.  It is the closest Saturday to his
> real birthday - the 13th.  Thought his children would think I had lost my
> mind for sure, but each of them thought it was a fabulous idea, and so did
> my DD when I asked her and her fianc to be there also.  So we will have
> the party at my new apartment.
> DD has been living with me and helping me keep my mind "somewhat" out of
> the depths of despair, so to speak.  But since she and her fianc are
> buying the house, she is also eager for me to "evacuate" ASAP since she
> has many plans for changing things and has asked whether or not I would
> mind.  Why should I care since she is going to be living here??!!  I am
> not emotionally attached to the house although I had lived here since
> 1989.  Also DH and I had planned on moving into this apartment anyhow.
> I also do need to get into the apartment and get back to quilting.  I
> haven't done any quilt work for over 7 months since DH had started to show
> strong signs of illness.  I devoted all my time to him while he was awake
> and most of the rest of the time, I tried to remain quiet so he could
> rest. I felt I needed to stick close to him as long as I could.  And after
> he passed away, my heart really wasn't into doing anything.
> Well, I've rattled on long enough and hope that everyone is well and happy
> and that each has the prayers and help that they need and happy dances for
> all of those who have made their desired accomplishments in whatever
> endeavors have been attempted.
> A special thanks to all of you who have sent your cards, e-mails, thoughts
> and prayers.  I couldn't have made it through without them.
> And a very special thanks to Toni and her DH and little Audrey for coming
> to DH's funeral.  I realized that all the rest of you are so very far away
> and couldn't be there, but for her to be there was a great showing of the
> wonderful love and concern that RCTQ gals show to each other.  She also
> gave me a mini quilt which I shall display proudly in my new apartment.
> And thank you all again for the lovely hug that I received last year at
> the loss of my son - anniversary of which will be in just 3 days, Aug
> 20th - the time his body was found in the California desert.
> Yes, it has really been a rough year for me, but I have tried to remember
> the tenacity of a lady in my church who had lost her DH and DS in the same
> horrible car crash many years ago.  She survived and went on with her life
> with all of the pain that happened on the very same day for her.  I had at
> least nearly a year between my losses.  So memory of her has kept me going
> as well.
> So to a great bunch of gals and guys, I wish for all of you, wonderful
> days, and good things for all you and yours.
> Thanks for being here. You are all great.

>    Marlys in Indiana

> --

> http://community.webshots.com/user/marletts

 
 
 

Long & OT- You are all wonderful

Post by Sandy Foste » Sat, 19 Aug 2006 10:03:06




Quote:
> So to a great bunch of gals and guys, I wish for all of you, wonderful days,
> and good things for all you and yours.
> Thanks for being here. You are all great.

Marlys, I have tears in my eyes as I read your message. What a generous
soul you are! I've been thinking of you and your difficult (not a strong
enough word, I know) situation. I'm glad to hear that your DH's children
have rallied around you, as well as your own DD; that has to help to
give you the strength you need right now.
--
Sandy in Henderson, near Las Vegas
my ISP is earthlink.net -- put sfoster1(at) in front
http://home.earthlink.net/~sfoster1

AKA Dame Sandy, Minister of Education

 
 
 

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Post by KJ » Sat, 19 Aug 2006 10:03:43


I've thought about you a lot.  Thank you for stepping out of your pain and
letting us know you are on the healing path.
Best wishes for good memories in your new apartment and I hope you can get
back to quilting with us all as soon as possible.
Warm wishes,
KJ



Quote:
> Well, it has been 2 months since DH passed away( June 14th) and I am still
> a bit "in the pits" but holding my own.  A number of people continue to
> tell me that I am a strong person and I will survive.  Looks like I might,
> even though I, most assuredly, will miss the greatest love of my life.  I
> had the best 11 yrs of my life with him and I will be ever grateful for
> that, but envious of those who have had such a wonderful husband and have
> had many more years than I have had with my beloved David.
> At least I have acquired 5 wonderful stepkids who think I'm pretty special
> also and they adore my DD and DGS.  They truly consider us part of their
> "family".  What more could I want due to circumstances, right!!!
> I will be moving into an apartment shortly - in the process right now.
> Glad to see that the entries for the new RCTQ directory won't be closing
> until I'm in the new apartment.  How kewl is that!!!!  I can get
> up-to-date just in time.
> Also, on Sept 9th I am having a birthday party for DH (yes, I know he has
> passed on).  I have things that I need to give to his children and we are
> having an "honor day" in memory of him.  It is the closest Saturday to his
> real birthday - the 13th.  Thought his children would think I had lost my
> mind for sure, but each of them thought it was a fabulous idea, and so did
> my DD when I asked her and her fianc to be there also.  So we will have
> the party at my new apartment.
> DD has been living with me and helping me keep my mind "somewhat" out of
> the depths of despair, so to speak.  But since she and her fianc are
> buying the house, she is also eager for me to "evacuate" ASAP since she
> has many plans for changing things and has asked whether or not I would
> mind.  Why should I care since she is going to be living here??!!  I am
> not emotionally attached to the house although I had lived here since
> 1989.  Also DH and I had planned on moving into this apartment anyhow.
> I also do need to get into the apartment and get back to quilting.  I
> haven't done any quilt work for over 7 months since DH had started to show
> strong signs of illness.  I devoted all my time to him while he was awake
> and most of the rest of the time, I tried to remain quiet so he could
> rest. I felt I needed to stick close to him as long as I could.  And after
> he passed away, my heart really wasn't into doing anything.
> Well, I've rattled on long enough and hope that everyone is well and happy
> and that each has the prayers and help that they need and happy dances for
> all of those who have made their desired accomplishments in whatever
> endeavors have been attempted.
> A special thanks to all of you who have sent your cards, e-mails, thoughts
> and prayers.  I couldn't have made it through without them.
> And a very special thanks to Toni and her DH and little Audrey for coming
> to DH's funeral.  I realized that all the rest of you are so very far away
> and couldn't be there, but for her to be there was a great showing of the
> wonderful love and concern that RCTQ gals show to each other.  She also
> gave me a mini quilt which I shall display proudly in my new apartment.
> And thank you all again for the lovely hug that I received last year at
> the loss of my son - anniversary of which will be in just 3 days, Aug
> 20th - the time his body was found in the California desert.
> Yes, it has really been a rough year for me, but I have tried to remember
> the tenacity of a lady in my church who had lost her DH and DS in the same
> horrible car crash many years ago.  She survived and went on with her life
> with all of the pain that happened on the very same day for her.  I had at
> least nearly a year between my losses.  So memory of her has kept me going
> as well.
> So to a great bunch of gals and guys, I wish for all of you, wonderful
> days, and good things for all you and yours.
> Thanks for being here. You are all great.

>    Marlys in Indiana

> --

> http://community.webshots.com/user/marletts

 
 
 

Long & OT- You are all wonderful

Post by Kate G » Sat, 19 Aug 2006 10:14:55


I've been thinking about you from time to time.... and glad to hear that you are doing okay.   I
hope you all share some fun and warm memories of your DH at the Memory Party.  Prayers for your
entire family as they move into a new year... hopefully a year without any tragic losses!  You all
have had your share for a spell!

Best wishes in your move... and let us know what your first project will be when you break out the
fabric and machine!

Kate in MI



Quote:
> Well, it has been 2 months since DH passed away( June 14th) and I am still a bit "in the pits" but
> holding my own.  A number of people continue to tell me that I am a strong person and I will
> survive.  Looks like I might, even though I, most assuredly, will miss the greatest love of my
> life.  I had the best 11 yrs of my life with him and I will be ever grateful for that, but envious
> of those who have had such a wonderful husband and have had many more years than I have had with
> my beloved David.
> At least I have acquired 5 wonderful stepkids who think I'm pretty special also and they adore my
> DD and DGS.  They truly consider us part of their "family".  What more could I want due to
> circumstances, right!!!
> I will be moving into an apartment shortly - in the process right now.  Glad to see that the
> entries for the new RCTQ directory won't be closing until I'm in the new apartment.  How kewl is
> that!!!!  I can get up-to-date just in time.
> Also, on Sept 9th I am having a birthday party for DH (yes, I know he has passed on).  I have
> things that I need to give to his children and we are having an "honor day" in memory of him.  It
> is the closest Saturday to his real birthday - the 13th.  Thought his children would think I had
> lost my mind for sure, but each of them thought it was a fabulous idea, and so did my DD when I
> asked her and her fianc to be there also.  So we will have the party at my new apartment.
> DD has been living with me and helping me keep my mind "somewhat" out of the depths of despair, so
> to speak.  But since she and her fianc are buying the house, she is also eager for me to
> "evacuate" ASAP since she has many plans for changing things and has asked whether or not I would
> mind.  Why should I care since she is going to be living here??!!  I am not emotionally attached
> to the house although I had lived here since 1989.  Also DH and I had planned on moving into this
> apartment anyhow.
> I also do need to get into the apartment and get back to quilting.  I haven't done any quilt work
> for over 7 months since DH had started to show strong signs of illness.  I devoted all my time to
> him while he was awake and most of the rest of the time, I tried to remain quiet so he could rest.
> I felt I needed to stick close to him as long as I could.  And after he passed away, my heart
> really wasn't into doing anything.
> Well, I've rattled on long enough and hope that everyone is well and happy and that each has the
> prayers and help that they need and happy dances for all of those who have made their desired
> accomplishments in whatever endeavors have been attempted.
> A special thanks to all of you who have sent your cards, e-mails, thoughts and prayers.  I
> couldn't have made it through without them.
> And a very special thanks to Toni and her DH and little Audrey for coming to DH's funeral.  I
> realized that all the rest of you are so very far away and couldn't be there, but for her to be
> there was a great showing of the wonderful love and concern that RCTQ gals show to each other.
> She also gave me a mini quilt which I shall display proudly in my new apartment.
> And thank you all again for the lovely hug that I received last year at the loss of my son -
> anniversary of which will be in just 3 days, Aug 20th - the time his body was found in the
> California desert.
> Yes, it has really been a rough year for me, but I have tried to remember the tenacity of a lady
> in my church who had lost her DH and DS in the same horrible car crash many years ago.  She
> survived and went on with her life with all of the pain that happened on the very same day for
> her.  I had at least nearly a year between my losses.  So memory of her has kept me going as well.
> So to a great bunch of gals and guys, I wish for all of you, wonderful days, and good things for
> all you and yours.
> Thanks for being here. You are all great.

>    Marlys in Indiana

> --

> http://community.webshots.com/user/marletts

 
 
 

Long & OT- You are all wonderful

Post by Polly Esthe » Sat, 19 Aug 2006 11:58:26


It is so very good to have you touch in with us, Marlys.  Please keep us
knowing how you are - and you don't have to wait until you're feeling
strong.  If you can bear the company, we'll cry with you, grieve with you or

to hold you close.  hugs and prayers, Polly


Quote:
> I've been thinking about you from time to time.... and glad to hear that
> you are doing okay.   I hope you all share some fun and warm memories of
> your DH at the Memory Party.  Prayers for your entire family as they move
> into a new year... hopefully a year without any tragic losses!  You all
> have had your share for a spell!

> Best wishes in your move... and let us know what your first project will
> be when you break out the fabric and machine!

> Kate in MI



>> Well, it has been 2 months since DH passed away( June 14th) and I am
>> still a bit "in the pits" but holding my own.  A number of people
>> continue to tell me that I am a strong person and I will survive.  Looks
>> like I might, even though I, most assuredly, will miss the greatest love
>> of my life.  I had the best 11 yrs of my life with him and I will be ever
>> grateful for that, but envious of those who have had such a wonderful
>> husband and have had many more years than I have had with my beloved
>> David.
>> At least I have acquired 5 wonderful stepkids who think I'm pretty
>> special also and they adore my DD and DGS.  They truly consider us part
>> of their "family".  What more could I want due to circumstances, right!!!
>> I will be moving into an apartment shortly - in the process right now.
>> Glad to see that the entries for the new RCTQ directory won't be closing
>> until I'm in the new apartment.  How kewl is that!!!!  I can get
>> up-to-date just in time.
>> Also, on Sept 9th I am having a birthday party for DH (yes, I know he has
>> passed on).  I have things that I need to give to his children and we are
>> having an "honor day" in memory of him.  It is the closest Saturday to
>> his real birthday - the 13th.  Thought his children would think I had
>> lost my mind for sure, but each of them thought it was a fabulous idea,
>> and so did my DD when I asked her and her fianc to be there also.  So we
>> will have the party at my new apartment.
>> DD has been living with me and helping me keep my mind "somewhat" out of
>> the depths of despair, so to speak.  But since she and her fianc are
>> buying the house, she is also eager for me to "evacuate" ASAP since she
>> has many plans for changing things and has asked whether or not I would
>> mind.  Why should I care since she is going to be living here??!!  I am
>> not emotionally attached to the house although I had lived here since
>> 1989.  Also DH and I had planned on moving into this apartment anyhow.
>> I also do need to get into the apartment and get back to quilting.  I
>> haven't done any quilt work for over 7 months since DH had started to
>> show strong signs of illness.  I devoted all my time to him while he was
>> awake and most of the rest of the time, I tried to remain quiet so he
>> could rest. I felt I needed to stick close to him as long as I could.
>> And after he passed away, my heart really wasn't into doing anything.
>> Well, I've rattled on long enough and hope that everyone is well and
>> happy and that each has the prayers and help that they need and happy
>> dances for all of those who have made their desired accomplishments in
>> whatever endeavors have been attempted.
>> A special thanks to all of you who have sent your cards, e-mails,
>> thoughts and prayers.  I couldn't have made it through without them.
>> And a very special thanks to Toni and her DH and little Audrey for coming
>> to DH's funeral.  I realized that all the rest of you are so very far
>> away and couldn't be there, but for her to be there was a great showing
>> of the wonderful love and concern that RCTQ gals show to each other. She
>> also gave me a mini quilt which I shall display proudly in my new
>> apartment.
>> And thank you all again for the lovely hug that I received last year at
>> the loss of my son - anniversary of which will be in just 3 days, Aug
>> 20th - the time his body was found in the California desert.
>> Yes, it has really been a rough year for me, but I have tried to remember
>> the tenacity of a lady in my church who had lost her DH and DS in the
>> same horrible car crash many years ago.  She survived and went on with
>> her life with all of the pain that happened on the very same day for her.
>> I had at least nearly a year between my losses.  So memory of her has
>> kept me going as well.
>> So to a great bunch of gals and guys, I wish for all of you, wonderful
>> days, and good things for all you and yours.
>> Thanks for being here. You are all great.

>>    Marlys in Indiana

>> --

>> http://community.webshots.com/user/marletts

 
 
 

Long & OT- You are all wonderful

Post by chri » Sat, 19 Aug 2006 13:16:27


 Marlys, it's so good to hear that you are doing OK. I think the party
sounds like a great idea. It gives everyone some closure, the chance to get
together and most importantly, to remember a loved one.
I hope your new life in your apartment goes well, getting back to quilting
will surely help. I often think of you and the terrible year you have had
( had a pretty rough one myself) and the way you have kept moving forward
has been an inspiration to me.

chris
:-)

 
 
 

Long & OT- You are all wonderful

Post by Patt » Sat, 19 Aug 2006 14:23:28


Bless you for this post, Marlys.
I hope that your move will go smoothly, and that you will find peace and
contentment in your new apartment.
.


Quote:
>Well, it has been 2 months since DH passed away( June 14th) and I am still a
>bit "in the pits" but holding my own.  A number of people continue to tell
>me that I am a strong person and I will survive.  Looks like I might, even
>though I, most assuredly, will miss the greatest love of my life.  I had the
>best 11 yrs of my life with him and I will be ever grateful for that, but
>envious of those who have had such a wonderful husband and have had many
>more years than I have had with my beloved David.
>At least I have acquired 5 wonderful stepkids who think I'm pretty special
>also and they adore my DD and DGS.  They truly consider us part of their
>"family".  What more could I want due to circumstances, right!!!
>I will be moving into an apartment shortly - in the process right now.  Glad
>to see that the entries for the new RCTQ directory won't be closing until
>I'm in the new apartment.  How kewl is that!!!!  I can get up-to-date just
>in time.
>Also, on Sept 9th I am having a birthday party for DH (yes, I know he has
>passed on).  I have things that I need to give to his children and we are
>having an "honor day" in memory of him.  It is the closest Saturday to his
>real birthday - the 13th.  Thought his children would think I had lost my
>mind for sure, but each of them thought it was a fabulous idea, and so did
>my DD when I asked her and her fianc to be there also.  So we will have the
>party at my new apartment.
>DD has been living with me and helping me keep my mind "somewhat" out of the
>depths of despair, so to speak.  But since she and her fianc are buying the
>house, she is also eager for me to "evacuate" ASAP since she has many plans
>for changing things and has asked whether or not I would mind.  Why should I
>care since she is going to be living here??!!  I am not emotionally attached
>to the house although I had lived here since 1989.  Also DH and I had
>planned on moving into this apartment anyhow.
>I also do need to get into the apartment and get back to quilting.  I
>haven't done any quilt work for over 7 months since DH had started to show
>strong signs of illness.  I devoted all my time to him while he was awake
>and most of the rest of the time, I tried to remain quiet so he could rest.
>I felt I needed to stick close to him as long as I could.  And after he
>passed away, my heart really wasn't into doing anything.
>Well, I've rattled on long enough and hope that everyone is well and happy
>and that each has the prayers and help that they need and happy dances for
>all of those who have made their desired accomplishments in whatever
>endeavors have been attempted.
>A special thanks to all of you who have sent your cards, e-mails, thoughts
>and prayers.  I couldn't have made it through without them.
>And a very special thanks to Toni and her DH and little Audrey for coming to
>DH's funeral.  I realized that all the rest of you are so very far away and
>couldn't be there, but for her to be there was a great showing of the
>wonderful love and concern that RCTQ gals show to each other.  She also gave
>me a mini quilt which I shall display proudly in my new apartment.
>And thank you all again for the lovely hug that I received last year at the
>loss of my son - anniversary of which will be in just 3 days, Aug 20th - the
>time his body was found in the California desert.
>Yes, it has really been a rough year for me, but I have tried to remember
>the tenacity of a lady in my church who had lost her DH and DS in the same
>horrible car crash many years ago.  She survived and went on with her life
>with all of the pain that happened on the very same day for her.  I had at
>least nearly a year between my losses.  So memory of her has kept me going
>as well.
>So to a great bunch of gals and guys, I wish for all of you, wonderful days,
>and good things for all you and yours.
>Thanks for being here. You are all great.

>    Marlys in Indiana

--
Best Regards
pat on the hill