Well, it has been 2 months since DH passed away( June 14th) and I am still a
bit "in the pits" but holding my own. A number of people continue to tell
me that I am a strong person and I will survive. Looks like I might, even
though I, most assuredly, will miss the greatest love of my life. I had the
best 11 yrs of my life with him and I will be ever grateful for that, but
envious of those who have had such a wonderful husband and have had many
more years than I have had with my beloved David.
At least I have acquired 5 wonderful stepkids who think I'm pretty special
also and they adore my DD and DGS. They truly consider us part of their
"family". What more could I want due to circumstances, right!!!
I will be moving into an apartment shortly - in the process right now. Glad
to see that the entries for the new RCTQ directory won't be closing until
I'm in the new apartment. How kewl is that!!!! I can get up-to-date just
Also, on Sept 9th I am having a birthday party for DH (yes, I know he has
passed on). I have things that I need to give to his children and we are
having an "honor day" in memory of him. It is the closest Saturday to his
real birthday - the 13th. Thought his children would think I had lost my
mind for sure, but each of them thought it was a fabulous idea, and so did
my DD when I asked her and her fianc to be there also. So we will have the
party at my new apartment.
DD has been living with me and helping me keep my mind "somewhat" out of the
depths of despair, so to speak. But since she and her fianc are buying the
house, she is also eager for me to "evacuate" ASAP since she has many plans
for changing things and has asked whether or not I would mind. Why should I
care since she is going to be living here??!! I am not emotionally attached
to the house although I had lived here since 1989. Also DH and I had
planned on moving into this apartment anyhow.
I also do need to get into the apartment and get back to quilting. I
haven't done any quilt work for over 7 months since DH had started to show
strong signs of illness. I devoted all my time to him while he was awake
and most of the rest of the time, I tried to remain quiet so he could rest.
I felt I needed to stick close to him as long as I could. And after he
passed away, my heart really wasn't into doing anything.
Well, I've rattled on long enough and hope that everyone is well and happy
and that each has the prayers and help that they need and happy dances for
all of those who have made their desired accomplishments in whatever
endeavors have been attempted.
A special thanks to all of you who have sent your cards, e-mails, thoughts
and prayers. I couldn't have made it through without them.
And a very special thanks to Toni and her DH and little Audrey for coming to
DH's funeral. I realized that all the rest of you are so very far away and
couldn't be there, but for her to be there was a great showing of the
wonderful love and concern that RCTQ gals show to each other. She also gave
me a mini quilt which I shall display proudly in my new apartment.
And thank you all again for the lovely hug that I received last year at the
loss of my son - anniversary of which will be in just 3 days, Aug 20th - the
time his body was found in the California desert.
Yes, it has really been a rough year for me, but I have tried to remember
the tenacity of a lady in my church who had lost her DH and DS in the same
horrible car crash many years ago. She survived and went on with her life
with all of the pain that happened on the very same day for her. I had at
least nearly a year between my losses. So memory of her has kept me going
So to a great bunch of gals and guys, I wish for all of you, wonderful days,
and good things for all you and yours.
Thanks for being here. You are all great.
Marlys in Indiana