Although I consistently read (and enjoy, and appreciate) this newsgroup (and
have done so for years) I haven't posted for a very long time. No special
reason; I guess I just haven't felt that I had anything to say.
Now I do.
"Sherry, as you have stated yourself, your communication can be considered rude
and abrasive at times..."
has taken me out of lurking mode.
Couldn't the person who posted this have offered her suggestions without that
For as long as I've been signing on to this newsgroup, I've read comments about
Sherry's posts. I felt that most have been uncalled for and more abrasive than
any comments she had made.
I don't know Sherry personally, and I'm sure she doesn't need me to put up a
defense, but I guess I just feel that enough is enough.
I may be thicker skinned than most, but I have never found Sherry's posts to be
that rude, obtrusive, abrasive, disparaging, insulting, or any of the other
negative adjectives used to describe them. She is sometimes terse or blunt or
occasionally a little critical; many of us are.
I know that I have been consistently impressed by the way she (and others- esp.
Dotty McMillan) have graciously answered every posters' questions, (even when
they are the same questions over, and over, and over again.) She's not a
martyr; she has chosen to do this- and many people have benefitted from it.
From where I sit, Sherry has been one of this newsgroup's staunchest advocators
and dedicated contributors to it's success.
I understand that sometimes some of you may be upset by someone else's words.
When hundreds of people get together, how can there not be disagreements and
occasional lapses of good judgement? Sherry is not the only one guilty of these
things. I've found it distressing to see how often she has been made to feel
that she had to apologize for saying things, or simply for being herself. And
I'm amazed at how often she has done so; a truly arrogant woman would not.
We're all different. Some shout while others whisper. Some cry, some moan, some
pout, some sulk. Some of us talk (write) more gently, or more "kindly" than
others. Some of us are able to "couch" our criticisms; some of us can't, or
just don't. Would that we could all, always, say (write, or do) just the right
thing in just the right way.
If there can't always be a happy medium, when it comes to extremes I, for one,
would prefer dealing with the person who faces me with both barrels loaded than
with the one who holds a knife to my back.
Perhaps everyone can try to make a special effort not to take any comments too
seriously or personally? And of course, do remember that this is a public
podium. Don't say anything here that you wouldn't want to see in tomorrows
I truly hope noone takes this as a criticism. I may be out of order, but I felt
it had to be said. This is a wonderful board and I do appreciate all of your
contributions in making it so.